We are still tweaking and reassessing, but I thought I'd share a couple sites I have found recently and also a good article I just read yesterday!
Article; The Nation Comes from the Nursery
I thought there was another, maybe I'll find it and edit it in later, or not! :)
And the good article I read yesterday, I even got Dan to read it and we got to chat a bit about it today!!
The Quick Fix Temptation
By Diann Jeppson
Thomas Jefferson Education is a set of principles. Principles take time and sacrifice
and faith to apply. The quick fix is so tempting, but there isn't a principle-based
quick fix. Especially for the idea of inspire, not require. I think of it as a chess
game. I have a certain set of moves that I can make. I can ignore. I can bribe. I
can threaten. I can beg, cajole and lay on the guilt trips. Or I can inspire. Each
has its consequences.
The big question is: What is the end result we want to achieve? For me, it is
to teach my children how to use freedom. This means I must accept the risks
associated with allowing them this privilege. It also means that relationship is king.
In an adversarial environment, TJEd will simply not work. But it is worth the
significant effort to get our relationships with our children square, so we can move
forward with our studies. It is surely not a destination, but a profoundly important
process and a daily practice.
Because you are reading this newsletter, I would venture to say that you are
experiencing a powerful desire to re-birth a new season in your family. Having
walked that path before, I offer you some caring mentorship. If you find yourself in
a place of significant pain in your relationships with your children, I want you to do
something that will likely be extremely difficult.
1. For a short season of time, stop trying to do academics with your children. For a
couple of months focus only on your relationships. Pray constantly for charity. Play
with them, hold them, listen to them, forgive them, pray about them and with them.
Sing, go places, do things they enjoy. Your job during the next couple of months is
to create an easy, open, relaxed feeling between you and them.
2. Give up the quick fix plan. If you decide to do TJEd, prepare to dig in and do it
with all of your heart. Don't do it as an experiment. Really do it. Forget yourself.
Forget what detractors say. Trust the process and let the process work in you. I
understand that it is hard to be patient when you are experiencing pain and anxiety.
You will gain confidence as you consistently move forward, so hang in there!
Your change will be from the inside out. You stand at the crossroads of new birth—
the birth of new lives, new hearts, new minds, new courage. Know that we care very
much about your success as you raise a generation of leaders in YOUR home!
1. Spend the next month or two concentrating on nurturing your relationships with
Reprinted from “The Inspirer Newsletter,” a free e-zine designed to inspire and reinspire
parent mentors engaging in Thomas Jefferson Education.